Being Not Together

Much has been said about the long-distance relationship and the reason of having one. Of course, it conveys a great number of difficulties and does not always lead to good results but these axioms are not of much use for those who are already involved in the relations of this kind. So, it is better to think of how to make this relationship work instead of dwelling upon its riskiness. When you are not together, regular communication becomes vitally important. You should call each other every day in some established time and use all other means of communication as well.

Try to tell your partner everything that has happened to you during the day, send photos, but avoid mentioning negative events as they will only make your partner sad. However if you need advice in some difficult situation, you should address your boyfriend in order to receive support – it will make you closer to each other and give him the feeling that he is needed.

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People and Presents

Everyone enjoys presents but the people give and receive them in various manners. The aim of each present is to bring joy to both the one who gives a present and the one ho receives it. It is important to do your best to avoid disappointment if you give a present.

  • If a person has the strong conviction that he is the best present himself that is a vivid example of the fact that even good may be excessive. The parents of such person probably used to suppose that their children is the center of the universe. That’s why as soon as such person goes through the door of the house he gets sure that his popping up is the present for all the guests. Generally the presents of such person may be rather valuable and expensive but only in the case he searches for attention of the one who receives them.
  • The ones who are not commonly pleased with what the other people give them may express their dissatisfaction either openly or implicitly. Such ones may tell a joke that would reveal their real attitude to the present received or make careless face. To reduce the risk of such situation it’ better to ask what that person would like to have. There is nothing wrong with it. Moreover the people who are rarely satisfied with the presents they get are aware of their feature and often make a list of wishes.

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How to Act if You Have Been insulted

It’s a pity but world is imperfect. Maybe if everything had gone smoother the world would be a dull place to live in. But still some minor events make us upset. We may either insult the other people or get insulted ourselves. Insult is an unpleasant thing by all means but for fragile and sensitive personalities that may be a cause of depression. So how to answer the abuser if he insults you? There are various strategies to act in such situation but I prefer not to answer. First or all impudence and rudeness makes me feel uneasy. Of course later I find a pile or possible sharp and witty answers but it’s already late. Moreover I suppose that there is no point to waste every second of your precious time for arguing with the one who allows himself to insult the others. I won’t make him better anyway if I start arguments. The last reason for my passive attitude is weak vocal cords. Every tension causes pain and discomfort. And the one with quiet and soft voice won’t take over noisy ill-mannered nuisance. The cycle “insult-answer insult” may be never ending. It is more likely the I would finally give in and allow the abuser to celebrate his victory. I prefer to cut off the mutual insulting by ignoring it from the very beginning. That doesn’t mean I always act right, in addition I don’t always ignore insults. I developed some tips for myself that help me when I face boorishness. Probably you would find some of them helpful.

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