It’s a pity but world is imperfect. Maybe if everything had gone smoother the world would be a dull place to live in. But still some minor events make us upset. We may either insult the other people or get insulted ourselves. Insult is an unpleasant thing by all means but for fragile and sensitive personalities that may be a cause of depression. So how to answer the abuser if he insults you? There are various strategies to act in such situation but I prefer not to answer. First or all impudence and rudeness makes me feel uneasy. Of course later I find a pile or possible sharp and witty answers but it’s already late. Moreover I suppose that there is no point to waste every second of your precious time for arguing with the one who allows himself to insult the others. I won’t make him better anyway if I start arguments. The last reason for my passive attitude is weak vocal cords. Every tension causes pain and discomfort. And the one with quiet and soft voice won’t take over noisy ill-mannered nuisance. The cycle “insult-answer insult” may be never ending. It is more likely the I would finally give in and allow the abuser to celebrate his victory. I prefer to cut off the mutual insulting by ignoring it from the very beginning. That doesn’t mean I always act right, in addition I don’t always ignore insults. I developed some tips for myself that help me when I face boorishness. Probably you would find some of them helpful.
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All-absorbing Charm 